Unique and Shared Relationship Benefits of Consensually Non-Monogamous and Monogamous Relationships

Hogrefe Publishing Group - Tập 22 Số 1 - Trang 55-71 - 2017
Amy C. Moors1,2, Jes L. Matsick3, Heath Schechinger4
1National Center for Institutional Diversity and Department of Women's Studies, University of Michigan, Ann Arbor, MI, USA
2Social Science Research and Evaluation, College of Engineering, Purdue University, West Lafayette, IN, USA
3Departments of Psychology and Women's, Gender, and Sexuality Studies, Pennsylvania State University, University Park, PA, USA
4Counseling and Psychological Services, University of California, Berkeley, CA, USA

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Abstract. The increased media and public curiosity on the topic of consensual non-monogamy (CNM) presents an interesting case, given that these types of relationships are highly stigmatized. In the present review piece, we first situate common themes of benefits that people believe are afforded to them by their CNM relationships within the current state of the literature to provide insight into unique and shared (with monogamy) relationship benefits. This approach helps uncover relationship benefits and theoretical advances for research on CNM by highlighting some of the key features of CNM relationships that people find rewarding, including need fulfillment, variety of activities, and personal growth and development. Second, we discuss common misconceptions about CNM and stigma toward CNM. Finally, we conclude with future directions and recommendations for scholars interested in pursuing research on CNM.

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